Had to get a PR photo done for the symphony program. Was this a time to be unstuffy? Certainly seemed like a chance. I could use one of my business headshots, wearing my typical red Hawaiian shirt. I could wear a tux but with a Hawaiian bow tie. I don't have one yet, but I know where I can get one online. I could look artsy and wear a black turtleneck with no jacket. Sure, that's a little hipsterish or 80-ish or 70-ish or something, but it wouldn't be stuffy. Well, at least it would be retro-stuffy. But I chickened out. Wore my white pleated shirt, black bow tie, and tux jacket. I was wearing shorts, but they don't show in the photo. Totally stuffy. Actually, not white tie with tails stuffy, but pretty stuffy. At first I was disappointed with myself for chickening out like this, but I got over it. I don't have the gig yet. You can't shake up the status quo from inside until you're actually inside the status quo. Using an unstuffy photo for m...
One of the stuffiest aspects of going to the symphony is the costume worn by the musicians. Big city orchestras have all the male players in the classic "monkey suit" tails and white tie. Cartoons make fun of this outfit whenever snobby and stuffy insults are needed. Volunteer Community Orchestras almost always ask players to dress in a basic tuxedo for men and a black dress for women. You know the basic tux - black pants with the satin stripe down the side, white shirt usually with pleats, black bow tie, and a black jacket with satin accents. And usually there's a cummerbund wadded up around where the belt would go if tuxes had belts. This outfit is timeless, and says either prom (where the tuxes are every color except black) or nice restaurant where the waiters and sometimes even the bussers are wearing a tux. When I go to one of those places, I always notice the waiters have a better tux than I do. So what should I wear? The conductor that was relieved...